ladiesagainsthumanity
ladiesagainsthumanity:

Tonight I went out to a small pub for karaoke, and the DJ happened to notice that I have big breasts. (MAZEL TOV, YOU HAVE EYES! WELL SPOTTED!)
So anyway, this guy decides to do the bar a favor and say, “Wow, I don’t usually single people out, but did you see this girl’s breasts? They’re amazing!” I was horrified. Men came over to talk to me, I huddled in a corner with my phone and tried to look as unapproachable as possible. I considered leaving, but I was there with my friends and didn’t want to go home.
Eventually, I felt comfortable enough to go up and sing (“Foolish Games” obvi), and I guess I should have seen it coming, but the DJ went ahead and did a 5 minute bit about my boobs with me standing right there in front of everyone. I was already pretty nervous what with being a writer hanging out with a group of professional singers, and by the end of his bit, I wanted to crawl under the floor and die. I cracked a joke about being uncomfortable (yaaaay comedy writer), and the DJ said, "Relax, it’s a compliment."
No. No. No.
Reducing me to the body parts you like best is not a compliment. Demeaning me and making me feel small is not a compliment. Reminding me that you and any other man who wants to can take my body as your own whenever you feel like it is not a compliment, no matter how jokey or flattering or whatever your tone.
I am sick of having to pretend harassment is flattery, and even more sick of being called ill-humored when I respond poorly. When I get upset about your harassment, I’m not ruining the fun. You are.
Sorry for the <rant>, but I’d like to pledge to be more outspoken in standing up for myself the next time this happens, no matter how scared or small I feel. Even more important, I hope I’ll have the guts to stand up for someone else next time I see something like this happening to another person — and I hope all of you (**especially you, male readers**) will do the same. Smooches! </rant>

ladiesagainsthumanity:

Tonight I went out to a small pub for karaoke, and the DJ happened to notice that I have big breasts. (MAZEL TOV, YOU HAVE EYES! WELL SPOTTED!)

So anyway, this guy decides to do the bar a favor and say, “Wow, I don’t usually single people out, but did you see this girl’s breasts? They’re amazing!” I was horrified. Men came over to talk to me, I huddled in a corner with my phone and tried to look as unapproachable as possible. I considered leaving, but I was there with my friends and didn’t want to go home.

Eventually, I felt comfortable enough to go up and sing (“Foolish Games” obvi), and I guess I should have seen it coming, but the DJ went ahead and did a 5 minute bit about my boobs with me standing right there in front of everyone. I was already pretty nervous what with being a writer hanging out with a group of professional singers, and by the end of his bit, I wanted to crawl under the floor and die. I cracked a joke about being uncomfortable (yaaaay comedy writer), and the DJ said, "Relax, it’s a compliment."

No. No. No.

Reducing me to the body parts you like best is not a compliment. Demeaning me and making me feel small is not a compliment. Reminding me that you and any other man who wants to can take my body as your own whenever you feel like it is not a compliment, no matter how jokey or flattering or whatever your tone.

I am sick of having to pretend harassment is flattery, and even more sick of being called ill-humored when I respond poorly. When I get upset about your harassment, I’m not ruining the fun. You are.

Sorry for the <rant>, but I’d like to pledge to be more outspoken in standing up for myself the next time this happens, no matter how scared or small I feel. Even more important, I hope I’ll have the guts to stand up for someone else next time I see something like this happening to another person — and I hope all of you (**especially you, male readers**) will do the same. Smooches! </rant>

Perfectly describes what privilege means. Privilege does not box you into one category. The matrix of domination means that one can both have and lack privilege at the same time because they are not additive categories, but defining characteristics of struggle.

Perfectly describes what privilege means. Privilege does not box you into one category. The matrix of domination means that one can both have and lack privilege at the same time because they are not additive categories, but defining characteristics of struggle.

ftnd-blog
ftnd-blog:

Dear Jennifer Lawrence,
What’s up? We are writing to tell you that we read the statements from your interview that was published today with Vanity Fair magazine. We are glad that you are brave enough to speak out on an issue that we can imagine has been super hurtful to you and has caused a lot of problems in your personal life. 
First off, we want you to know that it’s not cool what happened to you. Not cool at all. We wrote a blog article last month titled ‘Jennifer Lawrence Is Not A Porn Star. Don’t Treat Her Like One’, telling people how you were violated and that they should hashtag #HateCelebGate to show that they weren’t cool with it. We were stoked when that post went on to reach over 1 million people on Facebook. We were glad that so many people were with us in not promoting or participating in the crime that was committed against you and many other women. You don’t deserve to have your privacy violated and neither does anyone other human being.
However, when we just read your first interview since your hacked photos were released, you said something we found super concerning:
"I was in a loving, healthy, great relationship for four years. It was long distance, and either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.”
Now, after reading that, we couldn’t help but feel like your perceptions of a “healthy” relationship were a little bit off. However, we also know that there are thousands upon thousands of women out there who feel the exact same way. We are sorry for that.
We’re sorry that society has been “pornified” and that we are living in a culture that thinks that hacked and stolen photos of naked people are something to seek out, cheer for, laugh about, and spread around. With a society that thinks a woman is only as good as her body, it’s easy to see why you would feel like your boyfriend would turn to porn even when dating a talented and beautiful woman like yourself.
Think about this question, Jennifer. Should any person ever have to feel that they need to give their partner something because if they don’t then their partner will turn away and get it from someone else? Especially when that something is as important in a relationship as sex? We don’t think that’s cool and neither should you. If you were in a “loving, healthy, great relationship for four years”, should you have ever had to feel like if you didn’t send your boyfriend pictures that he would have no choice but to look at porn? No person in a committed relationship should have to expect that. That’s not sexy at all. And we’re sorry that you felt that way.
We are sorry that people have judged and tormented you for something that wasn’t your fault, for a crime that was committed against you. Regardless of anyone’s personal feelings about taking nude photos or sending them to a partner, we believe that none of that warrants those pictures being hacked, stolen, and spread around online for the entire world to see. We think any logical person will agree with that. No one deserves what happened to you and no one asks for it either.
We like what you said in one part of your interview. We agree when you said:
"It is not a scandal. It is a sex crime. It is a sexual violation. It’s disgusting… And we need to change. That’s why these websites are responsible. Just the fact that somebody can be sexually exploited and violated, and the first thought that crosses somebody’s mind is to make a profit from it. It’s so beyond me. I just can’t imagine being that detached from humanity. I can’t imagine being that thoughtless and careless and so empty inside.”
We feel the exact same way and so should everybody else. But let us ask this question: Is there any difference in what you just said when relating it to porn?
No! It’s the exact same meaning.
Just like the naked photos that were stolen from you and posted online for all to see, in too many cases, porn is a sexual violation made by people who have forced, abused, and threatened others to make it. In many cases, it is a sex crime that fuels the demand for even greater sex crimes like prostitution and sex trafficking. Regardless of who or what the images are of, the promotion of this material is extremely damaging and harmful to people.
Still think that it’s normal for your boyfriend to turn to that stuff if he doesn’t feel like his sexual desires are being met?
We wanted to write this letter to you, Jennfier Lawrence, to tell you that we support you and we wish the best for you. But let us give you one piece of advice. Never accept porn as a normal part of any relationship, or a normal part of anything in general. It is harmful material that addicts the brain, damages relationships, and pushes warped perceptions about sex and intimacy into society. You should never be expected to do anything for fear of a partner turning to porn or ever think its normal for them to do so. This terrible thing happened to you largely because of the porn culture of our society and how the world will do anything to feed its endless appetite for sex.
Real women are beautiful and real love is sexy. Anything else is a counterfeit.
All the best,
Fight the New Drug

ftnd-blog:

Dear Jennifer Lawrence,

What’s up? We are writing to tell you that we read the statements from your interview that was published today with Vanity Fair magazine. We are glad that you are brave enough to speak out on an issue that we can imagine has been super hurtful to you and has caused a lot of problems in your personal life. 

First off, we want you to know that it’s not cool what happened to you. Not cool at all. We wrote a blog article last month titled ‘Jennifer Lawrence Is Not A Porn Star. Don’t Treat Her Like One’, telling people how you were violated and that they should hashtag #HateCelebGate to show that they weren’t cool with it. We were stoked when that post went on to reach over 1 million people on Facebook. We were glad that so many people were with us in not promoting or participating in the crime that was committed against you and many other women. You don’t deserve to have your privacy violated and neither does anyone other human being.

However, when we just read your first interview since your hacked photos were released, you said something we found super concerning:

"I was in a loving, healthy, great relationship for four years. It was long distance, and either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.”

Now, after reading that, we couldn’t help but feel like your perceptions of a “healthy” relationship were a little bit off. However, we also know that there are thousands upon thousands of women out there who feel the exact same way. We are sorry for that.

We’re sorry that society has been “pornified” and that we are living in a culture that thinks that hacked and stolen photos of naked people are something to seek out, cheer for, laugh about, and spread around. With a society that thinks a woman is only as good as her body, it’s easy to see why you would feel like your boyfriend would turn to porn even when dating a talented and beautiful woman like yourself.

Think about this question, Jennifer. Should any person ever have to feel that they need to give their partner something because if they don’t then their partner will turn away and get it from someone else? Especially when that something is as important in a relationship as sex? We don’t think that’s cool and neither should you. If you were in a “loving, healthy, great relationship for four years”, should you have ever had to feel like if you didn’t send your boyfriend pictures that he would have no choice but to look at porn? No person in a committed relationship should have to expect that. That’s not sexy at all. And we’re sorry that you felt that way.

We are sorry that people have judged and tormented you for something that wasn’t your fault, for a crime that was committed against you. Regardless of anyone’s personal feelings about taking nude photos or sending them to a partner, we believe that none of that warrants those pictures being hacked, stolen, and spread around online for the entire world to see. We think any logical person will agree with that. No one deserves what happened to you and no one asks for it either.

We like what you said in one part of your interview. We agree when you said:

"It is not a scandal. It is a sex crime. It is a sexual violation. It’s disgusting… And we need to change. That’s why these websites are responsible. Just the fact that somebody can be sexually exploited and violated, and the first thought that crosses somebody’s mind is to make a profit from it. It’s so beyond me. I just can’t imagine being that detached from humanity. I can’t imagine being that thoughtless and careless and so empty inside.”

We feel the exact same way and so should everybody else. But let us ask this question: Is there any difference in what you just said when relating it to porn?

No! It’s the exact same meaning.

Just like the naked photos that were stolen from you and posted online for all to see, in too many cases, porn is a sexual violation made by people who have forced, abused, and threatened others to make it. In many cases, it is a sex crime that fuels the demand for even greater sex crimes like prostitution and sex trafficking. Regardless of who or what the images are of, the promotion of this material is extremely damaging and harmful to people.

Still think that it’s normal for your boyfriend to turn to that stuff if he doesn’t feel like his sexual desires are being met?

We wanted to write this letter to you, Jennfier Lawrence, to tell you that we support you and we wish the best for you. But let us give you one piece of advice. Never accept porn as a normal part of any relationship, or a normal part of anything in general. It is harmful material that addicts the brain, damages relationships, and pushes warped perceptions about sex and intimacy into society. You should never be expected to do anything for fear of a partner turning to porn or ever think its normal for them to do so. This terrible thing happened to you largely because of the porn culture of our society and how the world will do anything to feed its endless appetite for sex.

Real women are beautiful and real love is sexy. Anything else is a counterfeit.

All the best,

Fight the New Drug

Our Bill of Rights Has Freedom of Speech Because…

…our founding fathers believed that people should not be persecuted (murdered) or imprisoned for saying what they individually say or believe.

That being said, you have the right to say what you want without risk of prison or homicide; however, that does not mean there will not be other economic and social consequences.

Say something offensive, and your employer has the right to fire you if you represent a company. Say a rape joke, and you can pretty much guarantee that any woman in her right mind will not be the least bit interested in you.